How I’ll Know I’ve Met the Right Person: My Nervous System Won’t Flinch

I used to think the “spark” meant something.

You know—that electric jolt when someone walks into the room, and your stomach flips and your brain starts spinning in stories. I used to chase that feeling like it meant fate, like it meant I was supposed to lean in.

But that spark?

That was just my nervous system reacting to danger.

It was my body picking up on a pattern I’d known before—chaos.

Unpredictability. Codependency. Pain.

What I know now—after years of self-work, therapy, energy healing, inner child shadow diving, and real-life heartbreak—is this:

I will know I’ve met the right person when my nervous system feels calm.

Like, settled in my body calm.

Like, I’m not replaying our last text message ten times.

Like, I don’t have to perform, overgive, or guess what they’re thinking.

Like, I can breathe deeper when they’re around.

They don’t activate me.